Chapter 91 Understanding and accommodation
Three o'clock in the afternoon.
Cafe on the clouds on the top floor of the Twin Towers.
This cafe uses a pure white and simple decoration style, and the environment is quiet and comfortable.
"Why did Qingqing have time to invite me to have afternoon tea today? Do you want to take me to enjoy the daily life of a noble lady?" Zhong Rui asked after sitting down.
"The daily life of a lady?" Mu Qing asked strangely.
"For example, those who go shopping, afternoon tea, do spas and go on vacation everywhere," said Zhong Rui.
"Who said that to you?" Mu Qing asked with a funny look.
"Isn't it all spread online?" Zhong Rui said.
"That's called putting on a beautiful vase. How many real ladies are vases? Their husbands are not fools. Will they marry a beautiful vase and put them home?" Mu Qing said.
"Then what do you mean by the daily life of a noble lady?" Zhong Rui said.
"For example, Wang Hong's wife Chen Qian, who you met last time, runs several high-end restaurants. In addition to painting and writing at home, she often goes around and sees whether there is any suitable place to invest in a store.
For example, Li Chen’s wife Zhao Man’s husband’s property is the one she is watching, and many investment decisions are also the one she makes. She often learns all kinds of knowledge on weekdays.
As for many other examples, I won’t list them all. What you just mentioned is more just embellishments in life, not the whole of life.” Mu Qing said.
"Why should they say they deserve money? They still work so hard when they have money." Zhong Rui said.
"Basically, the ladies I know will constantly improve themselves while enjoying life, and basically have their own skills.
To the words of Ayu’s friend’s wife, who I met in Xiajing last time, it is, ‘My husband’s wealth is increasing. As a wife, you can’t depreciate yourself!’ This is what I know about the life of a noble lady.” Mu Qing said.
"I've gained some knowledge. It seems that it's not that easy to become a noble lady." Zhong Rui said.
"This is normal. If you simply think that you can marry into a wealthy family if you are good-looking, it can only be said to be naive. The men I know who have some achievements generally do not choose to marry a woman with a fair face as your wife.
Personally, it seems that instead of thinking about how to marry into a wealthy family and become a rich wife, it is better to think about how to make yourself better, which is more reliable." Mu Qing said.
"It makes sense. If you become excellent, you will naturally attract outstanding people." Zhong Rui said.
"I have learned a lot with A Yu during this period, and it really fits the saying that women should really find a husband who is better than themselves than themselves and has a greater ability than themselves and has a stronger vision than themselves, and can teach their own human nature and the worldly style and can lead them to grow up with them.
If I hadn't followed A Yu, I wouldn't have learned some things. Even if I could learn them, I would have realized them after experiencing many setbacks." Mu Qing sighed.
"Qingqing, you have changed." Zhong Rui said.
"I'm no longer ignoring my cherishment as I used to? Some things really have to be almost lost before I can learn to cherish them." Mu Qing remembered what happened before.
"Is there something happened to Qingqing?" Zhong Rui asked, who found Mu Qing was a little wrong.
"Something happened, and I almost lost Ayu. But if it weren't for those things, I wouldn't realize how serious my problem was.
I have always been too self-centered. I only think about myself in everything, but I have never cared about his feelings, nor have I really understood him.
I just know how to accept A Yu’s kindness to me, but I don’t know how to cherish it. Looking back, I thought about it, I had failed before.” Mu Qing said.
"Qingqing, if you realize these, it means that you have discovered your shortcomings and have the determination to change. This is a good start." Zhong Rui said.
"But Ruirui, I don't know how to change myself, nor do I know how to treat him well." Mu Qing said.
"You came out to me today, probably just asking me this, right?" Zhong Rui asked.
"Yeah." Mu Qing admitted.
"Qingqing, honestly, have you fallen in love with Ayu?" Zhong Rui asked.
"What are you asking about this? Does this have anything to do with me being nice to him?" Mu Qing asked.
"Of course it's related. He can tell whether it's true or false. Don't treat men as fools. If they don't say it, it doesn't mean they don't know. Some things are basically irreversible when they say it.
If you just do everything a wife should do, will he treat you sincerely? Can he have you in his heart? Put your heart in front of me. If others deal with things in a false way, then I will not treat you sincerely." Zhong Rui said.
"Actually, I don't know either, but I'm sure I'm afraid of losing him." Mu Qing said.
"Isn't this an answer?" Zhong Rui said.
"But I don't know what to do." Mu Qing said.
"Actually, you don't have to do anything specifically. You just need to take the initiative, be considerate and gentle in your daily relationships. Men are easy to coax.
For example, if he likes to drink coffee, you can make coffee for him, if he likes to exercise, you can accompany him, if he likes to watch the scenery, you can accompany him, and you can work hard on his daily habits," Zhong Rui thought about it and suggested.
"You mean to start small?" Mu Qing asked.
"Well, there is no need to ask too much for some small matters, nor is there any need to care about him everywhere. You have to leave some private space for him to give him some freedom, and you have to accommodate him in some matters.
Sometimes men are like springs. The more you suppress and bounce back, the more you will be, the more powerful you will be." Zhong Rui said.
"Think about it, he was more of the time before," Mu Qing said.
"People are mutual. While they accommodate you, you must also understand him and understand him. You cannot focus on yourself in everything. You can't do this again after you have suffered it." Zhong Rui said.
"What else should I pay attention to besides these?" Mu Qing asked.
"And if he goes home after a day of work, don't complain about anything and picky in front of him. A man has worked hard for a day and wants to enjoy the warmth of his family. What he wants to have is to have a good rest.
If you complain about the world and criticize the world at that time, will you feel good?
Men also have self-esteem. They may tolerate your inconscience and incomprehension, but it is difficult to tolerate you being provoked and troubled all day long." Zhong Rui said.
"You mean to be considerate and understand the difficulty of men?" Mu Qing said.
"Well, many men like to keep things in their hearts. Sometimes they pretend to be nothing even though they are very stressed.
So don’t ignore it just because it seems nothing is wrong. Sometimes you have to take the initiative to care and ask. Maybe he won’t tell you anything, but he can understand your goodness.
Men are not iron-clad, and men also need comfort.” Zhong Rui said.
"Ruirui, why do you understand these things so well?" Mu Qing asked.
"You forgot what I do? I am a lawyer and I have a lot of contact with divorce lawsuits. There are only a few reasons for divorce, and you will know over time." Zhong Rui said.
"It seems that daily interactions are indeed very important." Mu Qing said.
Chapter completed!