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A person's ideology and values ​​determine a person's career, marriage, and everything else in life.

The intensification of conflicts and breakdowns between people are all caused by differences in outlook on life and values.

People’s thoughts and values ​​are divided into three categories:

1. The low (selfish) concept of fun and enjoyment (vanity): money is omnipotent, and having money means everything. This is the "elementary school student" stage of life, who regards love and marriage as playing house.

2. The medium (equal) concept (reality) of mutual exchange: Money is not everything, but without money nothing is possible. This is the stage of life for "middle school students" who regard love and marriage as a transaction.

3. High-level (selfless) and responsible concepts (ideals): Money is an external thing, do not live for money, and do not live for money. This is the "college student" stage of life, who regard love as a human need and marriage as a

Human responsibility.

Success in life depends on five points:

1. Finance (tangible assets and intangible assets),

2. Color (appearance and chastity),

3. Name (respected and good or bad reputation),

4. Virtue (character, temperament and concept of chastity),

5. Xian (life ability and talent).

(1) Vain people are "primary school students" who like to have fun and enjoy themselves. Regardless of men or women, they only care about money and sex.

Their view on love and marriage is: stay together when you are happy, and separate when you are sad.

However, playing requires both time (youth and beauty) and money. After playing, you will realize that once something is gone, it will no longer be there, and it will be empty and sad or the jar will be broken:

Because of their selfish nature, they will only envy others everything they don’t own, especially things they own without being selfish and without harming others. They are jealous of other people’s money and sex, and hate themselves for being young and ignorant, psychopaths, and even haters.

The rich, haters of officials, and resort to the vile deeds of a despicable villain.

In short, the envious and jealous bitch.

In the selfish stage (primary school student stage), there will be no long-term love and marriage. Unless two people are at this stage, they will never "enlighten the Tao". However, most people will become "middle school students" in life, so there must be a gap.

, contradictions will inevitably arise again, eventually leading to tragedy.

(2) The middle-level real people, "middle school students", have also been vain in their minds (some, the mind is playing with the body but not the body, some, the body and the mind are playing together).

Only after playing it can you realize that there must be rules for playing. Otherwise, the weak will eat the strong, and when you eat others, others will also eat you.

Therefore, since they have known each other as equals, they are willing to abide by the rules (etiquette, integrity, loyalty, integrity, law, equality, and mutuality). Marriage for people at this stage is not just for fun, it is a transaction.

Most people who have just started trading are not people who trade for the sake of trading, but people who want to make more money. They cannot realize their vanity in the selfish stage. Therefore, men still value sex and want to make more sex, and women still want to make money.

Sell ​​more money!

Therefore, before going on a blind date or falling in love, they still think 1 and 2 are important. Therefore, before a transaction, women hate men pretending to be rich and men hate women pretending to be pure.

However, since they know about equality and are willing to be equal, they will adjust their goals, not only looking at money and sex, but taking into account all aspects.

So: the order in which a woman values ​​a man is: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5; and the order in which a man values ​​a woman is: 2, 1, 3, 4, 5.

After getting married, they discovered that 4 or 5 is the most important criterion for a happy and long-term marriage.

(3) Higher-level people, "college students", are born for responsibility. They look down on other people's 1, 2, 3, 4, and 5, and don't care about everything others come to possess, just like parents do for their children.

Faced with selfish aggression from lower-class people, college students will laugh it off. This is not "tolerance" but indifference.

Just like the idiom "Han Xin can endure the humiliation of stepping down", it must have been invented by a low-level or middle-level person, because there is a feeling of suffering a loss. Selfish people and people who demand equality think that this is toleration.

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However, Han Xin felt: "You can't hurt me even if you insult me. My ideal is to conquer the world. As long as I don't die until I realize my ideal, I won't fight with boring people like you. If

How can you realize your ideals if you lose your life?"

This is not because he is afraid of death, but because he knows that living has its uses. If Han Xin had endured the humiliation and had become stronger later, he would have taken revenge on those who insulted him in the first place.

Revenge is a common practice of villains (elementary school students), and it is also an equal practice of gentlemen who emphasize clear rewards and punishments (middle school students). Then, the original insult should be insulted back, or the bastards should be punished; instead, they should be bullied

He gave his people opportunities, made them rich, went to the battlefield and made achievements, but in the end, they all died on the battlefield.

Therefore, how can "primary school students" and "middle school students" understand the thoughts of "college students"?

Of course, not all people can give selflessly, so not many people enter this "university" of life.

A person with ideals can die for his ideals, so money is not important to him.

However, people with ideals mature from two stages: vanity and reality. If they don't understand vanity and reality, they can't become "college students."

Therefore, "college students" get married for the sake of getting married, and willingly take on the responsibilities of marriage without asking for anything in return. They cherish the people in front of them and have no regrets or desires!

Therefore, the reason why many sexless marriages can be maintained is not because men are calling chickens and women are looking for ducks, but because of the indifferent sympathy of other lower-class people.

To realize one's ideals, one must have enough food and clothing. Otherwise, all ideals are just empty talk. People who are realistic and vain will make fun of them, and they will also doubt whether their ideals are correct.

In summary:

Elementary school students envy middle school students, but they will show off their youth and fun in front of middle school students. However, most elementary school students will become middle school students.

Middle school students look down on elementary school students and envy college students; however, very few people can go to college, and some still think about going back to elementary schools to liven up their lives as middle school students, which is a regressed life.

College students will not be compared with students at all, because they came from elementary school and middle school, so even if they are compared, they will be compared with college students.

There is also a higher level, which is to return to nature, which will be introduced later. Please pay attention to the VIP chapter to understand human nature, master interpersonal relationships, conquer the world, and get a lot of beauties.

Therefore, in marriage, either two people with the same maturity level of life values ​​​​are together, and they always keep their life values ​​​​unchanged, then they will be stable and happy. However, people’s thoughts are improving, and there is no guarantee that they will not learn from it.

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Therefore, two people with different life values ​​and different views on marriage will inevitably encounter various problems, which are all caused by selfish "inner demons".

If one party is a "college student" in life, then they can ask the other party for anything, and they don't care if they don't have anything, including if the other party is inhumane, ugly, or has no money...

However, "college students" generally look down on junior students, so it is best for two people to get married during the "college student" stage of life, which is the easiest and happiest.
Chapter completed!