Some people say no, why don’t you come if you are engaged? If this is a bit unlucky, who will be the one who will happen in the future?

There is no way if one person doesn't agree.

Someone saw Xu Tian holding Qiming and asked: The fourth family has a grandson.

Someone shouted: Don't look for it, it's okay if you don't come or not, your niece will be filial to your uncle. It's these two nieces who wash it.

Then the person shut up and explained to the people next to him that I am not afraid of offending others. I am more afraid of something happening than offending others.

When you go back, you have to walk the main road. The main road will pass by the two rows of doors of people's houses where something happened. The family has all had sons and grandchildren, so they are particularly serious.

After all the talk, I felt that Qingjuan’s son-in-law had it.

It was exciting to Qingjuan, but it didn't end. Liancheng came. It was his grandfather who personally sent it. Knowing the rules here, he called his grandson. Then he rushed to the scene, but it was still too late.

The young man was beautiful, and was looked at by so many people, and he lowered his head embarrassedly. Then he quietly stood beside Qingjuan.

Qingjuan was angry about this breaking the rules and was happy that Liancheng could come. She asked in a low voice: How did it come?

He drove back. He whispered: Are you waiting for me? He looked very uneasy.

When everyone arrived, all the scattered people knelt down. There must be many people. The big and small ones hugged Qiming and hid to the side.

The filial son and daughter who were kneeling burned paper and set off firecrackers to get rid of bad luck. Then kowtowed and spread money, which was considered to be buying a way out from various gods. Finally, they gave one white lantern bought from the paper shop and lit it up. Each one held one, which led to the dead's way home. Yan and Xu Qiang both took two, one big and one small, for the two children. Lao Yang took Qi Fu, the daughter of Qingsheng's family, and Huahua's father helped Qi Rui take it.

Spend money all the way, and call people all the way.

The younger generation couldn't open their mouths, and the people in the village who were accompanying him said: Stop if you don't shout, wait for your uncle, otherwise you will leave a little soul and harm who will you harm!

Qingjuan just held Qingyue: Why do you shout? Just shout

It's like playing tricks here, and there are so many people watching, and it's not like this when singing monkey operas.

Qingyue was almost crying.

Liancheng still had a solution. He squatted down and muttered to Qingyue. Then the kid shouted loudly. Liancheng, who thought he was very shy, shouted with sternness and rhythm.

Later, when Qingjuan asked, he said that his father died on the operating table and he died outside. At that time, the place where his grandparents lived was not a county town, but could only be in the suburbs of the county. At the age of four, he also called his father like this, for fear that he would not be able to take his father home.

Even though he has never seen this father-in-law and father-in-law now, he is still very pious.

I walked all the way, shouted all the way, and welcomed the "person" into the house.

Then they burned firecrackers and kowtowed, thanking all the gods for opening their way to protect their relatives home.

At this point, Qingping and Qingning felt that they were fine if they were there for the time being. They lit a brazier at the entrance of the alley and stepped over it. Today's business will be over.

Qingping took the child back to the town's house, Qingning and Yan returned to the county town, and the child still had to eat milk.

Yao Siyun took Qingyue and Qingjuan to see Liancheng away, and followed Qingping back to his second family.

When Qingjuan arrived at home, he scolded: What kind of details are there? It's all the time, and this is still the same thing. My father and his uncle are like sick, so why do they say they want to ask their niece to go? My father and my second uncle didn't say they were blocking me and my second uncle, and they even asked my eldest sister and then asked Qingping: My eldest sister is still bold and not afraid at all. Humph! If it's me, I will take care of him! My son and daughter-in-law don't go, why should I ask me to go! I just went in, I didn't move, and I have the ability to bite me?

Qingping said: I used to hear people saying, "Men rely on their families, women rely on their parents' families." I have never understood what the old man emphasized meant. This time, I really knew it.

There has always been a circulating saying in my hometown that the post-90s generation may not know, but as the post-80s generation, I still know a little.

This sentence is 'Men rely on their foreign homes, and women rely on their parents' homes'.

She didn't understand why men had to rely on their families, but she simply thought that women were based on their parents' homes, and that women would be bullied when they came to their husband's homes and had to support them.

In fact, this understanding is particularly one-sided.

The meaning of this sentence is not like this at all.

Why did Uncle Meng appear in the provincial capital at such an old age? Why did he point fingers at the funeral without anyone refute? Even his father listened to it.

Now I think of the funerals in my family or the village, and if the male owner dies at home, then the one who is called must be the man's uncle's family. If the uncle is gone, the cousin's cousin is fine. If the cousin has no relatives in the immediate family, then the uncle's family will have to come to his own family. If there is no one in the family outside, the person will say it is really pitiful. If the mistress is the brother of the mother's family and the nephew of the mother's family. If there is no one in the mother's family, he will be labeled as a pitiful label. Yingzi and Lin Yutong were somewhat conquered and recognized the Lin family. Aunt Jin once said that women rely on their parents' family. There are brothers, but the brothers' surname is Guo but not Lin! If the family is not close, it is not right to be in charge.

Why are you pitiful? Why do you say you should be careful? What should you care about?

The man died, someone from his uncle's family came. The woman died, someone from his mother's family came. What did he do?

Here comes the supervision! Here comes the examination! Here comes the inspection if there are unfilial and bad things here.

It is impossible to test when this rule was passed down. But the original intention of formulating this rule should be to "filial piety" to supervise whether the children are filial.

For example, the elderly at home dies, or from outside, or from the parents' home. After the person comes, they will designate the person to wash the elderly. At that time, the sons are not the same. Some people have daughters, while others have no daughters. If there are daughters, they usually point to the daughter to wash the elderly. Why? The daughter will not hide it for the daughter-in-law. For example, does the elderly die abnormally, and does the elderly have scars on their bodies after being abused. The elderly are sick in the bed for a long time and are carefully served.

If he is not careful, it can be seen from the body. If he is not careful, the bedsores on the old man's body are rotten and maggots will grow. If his son and daughter-in-law don't wait for someone from other families or parents to dress them directly, will no one know? He Xiaowan's family had a case where his son and daughter-in-law strangled his mother to death, but it was just a marriage daughter. Why did I dress my mother before I arrived? This does not meet the procedures, so there is naturally something wrong with it.

If you don’t have a daughter, or point to your married niece, or point to another daughter-in-law who doesn’t often live with the elderly in the same yard to wash. The purpose is the same, that is, check whether there are any inappropriate parts of the elderly in the name of washing. If you are more particular about other people, outsiders or parents’ families, you must watch the whole process.

There are also special cases, such as having few relatives and six relatives, having few children, or something special about death. If the clothes on your body are not easy to take off, and the shrouds are not easy to wear, the village will be invited to wear them for the special wearer. Then give them a red seal.

But in the hospital, there is no one in the village who has helped me except my family. What's more, Jin Mancheng's uncle personally appointed someone.

Why don’t you dare to shirk it casually if you point out someone personally?

The original intention of this rule should be good. After such a process, everyone knows that abuses the elderly and is not kind to the elderly. Even if no one appears when the elderly are alive, they will definitely not be able to hide it after death. Once this is revealed to be unfilial, no matter whether it is the past or present, as long as they are shameless, they really cannot stand the criticism of thousands of people. Some elderly people cannot stand the torture of illness and do not dare to commit suicide. Why? They are afraid that during the funeral, they will let people know the uneasy death. They are afraid that their children and their descendants will be criticized by others. There is such a kind in the village. The legs of mothers are hurt and the pain cannot be withstood. There is no way for those years. The elderly are hung. Then the son is stabbed by someone and the village chief is kicked off. Why? You are not filial to your mother, and you still serve the villagers? Serve your grandmother's legs!

Everyone has the day of old age, right?

If you have this rule to calm down, there are really those who are unfilial, and he has to think too hard whether he dares to go too far.

But this rule has been passed down for many years, and no one knows when it was passed down. But after so many years, there must be evolution in the middle. After all, nothing is unchanged. Moreover, the implementation of the rules varies from person to person. Just looking at the person of the uncle's family or the mother's family, or whether the relationship between the two families is good, this has a direct impact on the implementation.

Originally, the function of these people was supervision, but later it turned into pointing fingers at funerals.

Is the funeral dress prepared by this, whether the coffin is good, and the covers on the bed, can you see it? If you can't see it, you're sorry! If you are not satisfied, these people will not appear at the funeral.

Those who don’t know will say, love comes or not!

But if you don't come, you can't do it.

Is the supervision of the past normal death? Is it because the elderly were abused? If there is a bad situation, the other family members will not come. If they don’t come, the matter will be a big deal. No one in the village dares to help bury people. What if they are involved in the lawsuit? Can they still be an accomplice?

So, these people didn't show up and said nothing. Then no one beat the cemetery, no one dared to carry the coffin. Almost no one came to help at home.

No cemetery is allowed to enter!

Who can carry his parents to the field and dig a hole and bury it yourself?

This kind of constraint is not unfilial.

But as it evolves, it seems to be a little distorted. For example, if the coffin is not prepared well, he will be picky, and if the mourning clothes are not suitable, he will be picky. If you don’t do what he said, he will not come. You will not be buried. People who don’t know will think you are so unfilial.

So, even if you are so angry that you vomit blood, you have to do as he said.

However, most people understand the truth. If it is not that, they are not willing to offend others. People die, so why do they do those things?

Of course, some people are reasonable to make trouble. For example, Aunt Jin’s coffin was too short back then, didn’t the Fourth Master build a coffin? No matter which son he was looking for, they just need to ensure that the aunt of Meng’s family was buried with a decent amount.

There are people who are more troublesome, or who have many rifts between relatives. They deliberately ruin you and slander your reputation when doing things.

There was a saying among cousins ​​who threatened people, saying: You wait. Let’s see when your dad dies. It would be strange if I don’t deal with it.

This threat is quite deterrent.

Not only is it bad reputation, but the key is that as children, you can't let your old man stink in a coffin just because of this.

Uncle Meng is not only the uncle of Jin Mancheng, but also the uncle of so many brothers in the Jin family. If he offended him, he would offend the Meng family. Then what did he say? In the future, the remaining four brothers will be gone. Do you have to hire the Meng family as juniors?

Then wait for the Meng family to come and disgust these children?

Although this is something that will happen in the future, there will be considerations in this aspect.

I won’t talk about the distance, isn’t this near right in front of me?

For example, this time:

OK! You don’t listen to what I said, right? Then I will go back now. What should I do when you see your funeral?

The Fourth Master and Lin Yutong came back to make the funeral as soon as possible and not to cause trouble. They were afraid that Li Xian'er would follow him to carry the body and make trouble. Can he delay this?

In addition, local customs believe that those who are pointed at washing the elderly are filial people. What is contaminated is not bad luck, but blessings.

This is called filial piety. Good fortune will inevitably protect future generations.

Therefore, the children who are Qingping and Qingning don’t have to worry about the secrets when they are at the entrance of the village!

When people talk about funerals, they will also say: Whoever is gone, whoever is washed by it. This person has washed a few old people and she is blessed!

Qingjuan said: Huahua doesn’t understand the rules here, and Qingfeng doesn’t understand it? He just called him his name.

Qingping explained: You didn't come to the front, and I felt so uncomfortable when I saw you, she felt that anyone who saw your biological father became like that wouldn't stand it.

Just as he was talking, Ye Zi came over.

Yao Siyun asked: How is it there? Is the mourning hall set up?

Ye Zi nodded: It's set. Qinghui and Qingyuan went to buy a coffin. They called him to send him over overnight.

Qingjuan laughed: How much money did he give?

The leaves stretched out two fingers: two thousand.

Two thousand is not too much or too little in rural areas.

Qingjuan said: Why didn’t his uncle pick Qingfeng and Qingcheng? It costs 2,000 yuan, but he didn’t say that the coffin was cheap? As he said that, he asked Yao Siyun: Mom, my dad, this uncle, is like my breasts, and he prefers my uncle.

Where do you prefer your uncle?

It’s just that your second uncle and your dad offended someone who was uncle.
Chapter completed!