"Ayan. Sit down." There was a bench next to the sand dune where a child was playing in the yard. Commander Lu asked his son-in-law to sit together.

Following the orders of his father-in-law, Jiang Yan sat down.

"I asked Nannan and you to move to the opposite side of my house first. I admit that it was her brother and I a little selfish." The palm of my palm slapped his thigh, and Commander Lu hesitated, "I hope it won't cause trouble between you and Nannan."

"Father-in-law, what are you saying?" Ying frowned, lowered her head, looking at the long and diagonal shadow under Yu Yang.

To put it bluntly, he and his wife had nothing to do with him, but it is impossible to say that there are no people who don’t mind at all. For example, his second sister Jiang Mei complained about this, thinking that the Lu family interfered in their family affairs and did not believe them at all.

To marry such a wife with a family background, he would be deceiving himself if he had no pressure at all. But since when his wife married him, he did not complain about his mother making things difficult for him and overcame him little by little. With a wife as an example, he, as a husband, can complain about these things.

Every family has its own difficult sutras.

This marriage between him and his wife is a typical example.

Before, my wife and the Wen family were said to be ineffective. Now, my wife and her family were said to be meddling in other people's affairs and bullying others. In short, I can never be satisfied with my words on others.

The most important thing is that you must adjust your mentality.

"Ayan, your mother-in-law and I have discussed you several times in private. Your mother-in-law likes you very much and says you like her very much, and it is more pleasing than her own son's godson." Commander Lu said his wife's words to praise her son-in-law. In fact, this son-in-law is also a likable person in his heart.

"Father-in-law, I'm very happy to be liked by my mother-in-law." Jiang Yan raised his head and said.

Mrs. Lu is a good mother-in-law, so there is no choice.

"But, Ayan, as Nannan's father, I have a few words to say to you." As Commander Lu said, he turned his words around the focus of asking his son-in-law to come out for a heart-to-heart talk, and his tone was particularly serious.

Jiang Yan listened with his ears, put his palms in his pockets and squeezed them a little sweat from his skin.

"For example, you are sick this time. I know that everyone has something to say when they are sick. But according to my later hearing your superior, you volunteered to help people take the shift and then the cold happened that night."

"father in law--"

With a big hand in front of Jiang Yan, two majestic and stressful eyes stopped Jiang Yan from speaking.

"I am Nannan's father, you are Nannan's husband, and the man I entrusted to protect my daughter's life. I can understand the mentality of your desire to achieve results and help others. However, the premise is-" Commander Lu paused, "It's not just for you, but this is what I often teach my two sons to say. If you think you have been in the army and become a soldier, your obligation is only sacrifice! That's wrong, it's a big mistake!"

If the old leader doesn't speak, he will be a sharp voice, which can make people frightened.

His father-in-law, who was known as the harshest man in the army, had not had much contact with him before and did not understand him very much. Today, his father-in-law finally tasted the taste.

Compared to his father, Mr. Jiang, Commander Lu's strictness is full of the spirit of the times and cannot be compared with ordinary generals.

"Soldiers, don't, don't always think about using sacrifice to exchange for everything, that's wrong. Because in this era, sacrifice cannot be exchanged for everything. The enemy is very cunning and uses the brain. What soldiers should consider more is how to win a comprehensive victory. This requires you to always remember to think with your brain and measure your abilities at any time. A unit, to cultivate a cadre with thoughts and ability, is the purpose of reducing sacrifices, not for himself, do you understand?"

Jiang Yan wanted to stand up and realize his ambitions.

Commander Lu's big hand slapped his shoulder twice again: "Sit, I'll let you sit. Today, we are the identities of Nannan's father, and the other is Nannan's husband. The dialogue is equal, and the discussion is even more equal. If you have any opinions you object to, you can just mention them."

"Father-in-law." The words of Commander Lu made the blood of the soldier in his blood boil, and his eyebrows raised, "I understand what my father-in-law meant is to protect myself as much as possible when I lack the ability. I admit that in order to obtain data that night, I forced myself. However, soldiers should be responsible for completing the task."

"Your thoughts are very similar to those of Nannan."

I was stunned: Why did I mention that I am not a soldier's wife?

"Nannan is just like you, her ideas are straightforward, right or wrong." Commander Lu's big eyes looked at the falling Yu Yang with his thick eyebrows. He was very deep and his words were even longer. "Do you think that if you sacrifice, Nannan should raise your children for you and stay widowed for the rest of your life?"

He really never thought about this question, perhaps, he never avoided it and did not dare to think about it. Although he knew that this should be a question that all soldiers should think of when they get married.

"What? Can't I answer?" Commander Lu came home these two days and could see his daughter restless sleeping all day long watching the walls that hindered him and her husband. The heart of her father was not sour. "If you can't answer, I will answer for Nannan. Nannan thought that being a military wife is like this. She would have this will when she married you."

The lowered Yingmei was a heavy silence. He knew exactly what his wife was, otherwise he would not have fallen in love with her.

"But--" Commander Lu looked at him, and his eyebrows were not only a father's identity, but the heart of a man who was a soldier. "If all women who married soldiers had to sacrifice freely, do you think this would be fair to them? Why do they only think about their husbands' righteousness every day, and they must sacrifice everything? Is this the idea that a modern soldier should have? As a modern soldier, what should we protect?"

"Father-in-law, what do you think?" asked, pursuing, eager to ask.

"I—" patted my chest, Commander Lu's eyes were strong and powerful, without any hesitation, "The national interests want me to sacrifice, and there will be no hesitation at all. This is the vow of the soldier. But what is the national interests that I have to sacrifice?" His hand pointed at his mind again, "I must think about it carefully here, because I have my wife and my children need me to take care of."

"think?"

"Yes, helping others is not a problem, completing tasks is not a problem. The problem is that you must be skilled. Do not think about being very happy with something that a person cannot do, and do not think about being able to do it. It is not shameful to ask for help from others." Commander Lu said this, and looked at him with a solemn question, "If you only think about the word sacrifice, then your performance this time is yours. I will question whether you love my daughter or not, and whether you love my daughter to think about her future results. If you just want to satisfy your needs, even if you die first, that is the manifestation of a most selfish person. Do you understand?"

He had never thought about these questions.

If you love someone, you have to think of the result...

It’s not just about giving love to the other person, or simply about getting married and having children, it’s about love.

What is selfless love, what is selfish love?

What does a marriage need most?

"I know these problems are a bit complicated for you, a young couple who have just gotten married, but since there is a problem, I, a father, must have an obligation to remind you." Commander Lu said, "Not only to you, but also to Nannan, I also want to tell her. After all, your mother-in-law and I, I hope you will be a couple who have been harmonious and peaceful. Even if one day your mother-in-law and I leave first, you can work together to live your future life. Marriage is simple, and difficult."

"Dad." This close respectful voice was filled with gratitude.

Commander Lu smiled: "I will test you the simplest question. Some people say that after marriage, the relationship between the couple will deteriorate. Some people say that love cannot last, so marriage is the grave of love. Don't you often say that you get married first and fall in love? A popular word for you young people. However, even if you get married like this, the relationship will still become indifferent one day. What do you think about this?"

Yingmei thrust, and she had an answer in her heart: "Dad, Manman and I got married not long after we met. We had a flash marriage and had a deep relationship, which is what people often say that love at first sight is not something. However, my idea is definitely absolute. Marriage without love is not marriage. Marriage without love, I will not get married. As for the various family hardships that people talk about, Manman and I are experiencing, and there is no less experience than others. I have never thought about the indifferent feelings between husband and wife."

"I never thought about it." Commander Lu laughed a little at the answer to the son-in-law and covered his mouth with his fist.

Jiang Yan is not afraid of others laughing at him. Even if his father-in-law laughs at him, his personality is upright and sunny, expressing his opinions directly: "Dad's words today also gave me a lot of inspiration. I want to give my wife a result of love and a result that I have expectations to achieve, rather than a fantasy. I will definitely be more cautious in doing things in the future. Please rest assured by both dad and mom."

With this promise from a son-in-law, I didn’t waste my words today and I tried so much to say so much, and I was talking about it. Commander Lu nodded with satisfaction: "Go back, maybe your mother-in-law has already cooked the food, so she is looking for us everywhere."

When the two of them turned back, the small storm that happened at home had just passed. Mrs. Lu went back to the kitchen to cook, and Lu Huan helped her mother in the kitchen. The only sign that could be seen was that both of them were sitting in Manman's room.

Commander Lu and his son-in-law walked in and saw the medicine box on the table. They asked anxiously: "What's wrong?"

Mr. Yao woke up from the sudden silence, stood up quickly, closed the lid of the medicine box, handed it to his younger brother to carry it back, and said, "Nothing. She was a little sensitive to the medicine just now, so she looked for some anti-allergic medicine."

"What about now?" Commander Lu asked again, his eldest son who was silent.

Jun Ye stood up and did not face his father, but said, "Go back and let her sleep for a while."

Jiang Yan listened to them, wiped the group, walked to the head of the bed, bent down, and touched his wife's forehead and face. It looked fine.

Manman, who was disturbed, waved her head slightly on the pillow, and Yue'er's eyebrows tightened.

I guess he didn't like to be disturbed when he was asleep. Commander Lu was relieved and walked out with his son. When he went out, he called his son-in-law who was leaning on his wife's bedside: "A Yan, let's finish the meal."

After all, he was a person who was staying in the teaching team. He had learned some first aid and touched his wife's pulse, which seemed to be faster than he could have when he left. Jiang Yan suddenly had a question in his heart.

My fingers accidentally exerted a little more force, and then I accidentally pinched my wife to wake her up.

Manman tilted her head, opened the gap of her eyes, and identified the vague shadow in front of her: "Mom?"

"I woke you up." Jiang Yan felt extremely guilty. Seeing several unpleasant gazes shot towards him, they were all from his wife's family.

"Ayan, are you okay?" Hearing my husband's voice, he immediately got up from the bed.

Commander Lu turned around and shook his head: If a woman is big or not, a woman is big or not.

"Dad, what did you just say to him?" Jun Ye, who followed his father's footsteps, asked cautiously.

"I have told him everything I should say, so you don't have to say much to your sister-in-law." Commander Lu told his eldest son that he was in a hurry to talk to his son-in-law, in order to avoid conflicts between his son and his son-in-law. His son's words were not as polite as he was as artistic as he was.

"It's good that he can listen to what Dad said." Jun Ye's regular tone was gone, and he had no expectations for this matter.

"You—" turned around and pointed at his son's nose. Seeing the two brothers of the Yao family nearby, they took them back and coughed, "Like what your uncle and your grandfather taught, please win him over and bring him into our big family. After all, he is the one chosen by Nannan."

When talking about my sister, Bingyan looked unhappy, especially when she saw her sister's expression of kissing her sister-in-law.

"Don't say that to Nannan." It seemed that she could see through her son's thoughts. Commander Lu reminded her son, "It is a good thing for them to fall in love with each other. But you, you and Bai Lu, you really don't know what's going on."

"After getting married, no matter how much you love, you must not forget your relatives connected by blood." Jun Ye has Jun Ye's own principles, which were taught by the Lu family since childhood.

Commander Lu couldn't refute this, so he had to imitate his youngest son to scratch his head and let it go: Young people's emotional affairs will be done by themselves.

My daughter and son-in-law are getting better, and the day of this family banquet is approaching.

On this day, the people from the garment shop brought their dresses.

Mrs. Lu asked her daughter and son-in-law to change into new clothes.

Among the two cheongsams I showed for Mrs. Yao last time, Manman finally chose the white one himself because it felt like a bride dress.

She and her husband got married in a hurry. They didn't even have a wedding photo.

Cooperating with his wife, Jiang Yan chose a white dress suit delivered from the garment store.

When the couple changed their clothes, Mrs. Yao came to visit her and said that her two sons' new clothes were delivered together and she was trying.

"I'm not worried about Ziye, Baoer, I'm worried that he has many opinions." Mrs. Yao was worried about the master who made new clothes for her youngest son.

"Baoer's clothes rack is like his brother, so there is no problem with wearing clothes." Mrs. Lu relieved her, "Acne will naturally disappear after puberty."

"This year, the acne on Baoer's face is much better than last year, but mainly because the girls in school now like to make fun of people." Mrs. Yao was quite helpless. Her youngest son also reached puberty and would like girls. If she was disliked by the girl she liked, wouldn't she be seriously hit.

"Don't think about it. I think Baoer has a good mentality. Besides, he is like his brother, so it's hard for him to fall in love with a girl." Mrs. Lu smiled.

This is the truth. Although Yao Zibao is not as handsome as his brother, nor as handsome as Lu Huan, who grew up together, he is also arrogant. There is not a single girl who can see him in his eyes.

However, Lu Huan knew that the girl who was slapped by Wen Yuan was not counted.

When the two mothers talked about this, Lu Huan was worried about how he helped his brother inquire about the girl from Manman.

Manman didn't change her clothes, so she first helped her husband with a tie.

Wearing a tie is a skill job. In the past, before, before becoming a wife, I couldn’t think of such things as wearing a tie, because my father Wen Shixuan had never worn a dress or a tie.

My husband is married. He is a soldier and has worn this kind of formal dress for only a few times. There is no more than one tie at home, just one. My husband said that it was bought by his second sister Jiang Mei for him many years ago, and he has never used it.
To be continued...